every thing there is a season, and a time to every
purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, a time to
die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up [that which
is] planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time
to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep,
and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to
Did you know that it is
normal to miss a loved one more at Christmas
then any other time of year?
doesn't even have to be a recent loss. Some times we miss
loved ones more at holidays than any other time of year. The
first year really is the hardest.
Here are some practical
for you to consider this Christmas:
Don't expect too much from yourself this year.
2: Don't apologize for your feelings or for your tears.
3: Don't be alone. Invite someone over. Try arranging a
SHORT visit the first
time. You will probably tire a little easier this year.
4: When you and the family are together remember it is OK
to talk about the
happy memories you have about Christmas's past and your
5: Don't feel guilty if you are having a good time.
6: During the first year of mourning you will cry for
absolutely no particular
reason at all.
7: Visit the grave and take a poinsettia plant or flowers
8: If you feel up to it volunteer to help with a charity
or church activity.
9: Attend a candle light service or Christmas Carol Sing
10: The movies are open on Christmas day so take a box of
Kleenex and cry.
11: You may not want to decorate the house for Christmas
this year and that
is really ok. Of course if you have young children in the
home you may need
to put their needs before your own. And then again you
may not be able to
the first Christmas.
12: Don't do Christmas cards this year.
13: Journal. Write down your thoughts and feelings.
14: If you are able to sit and read again then open the
Bible to the story of
Jesus Christ our Savior's birth. Read it out loud.
15: Work on a special Scrap book or a Photo Album. It can
all be about your
loved one whom you have lost. Put the names and dates of
the pictures in a
caption below each picture. Write our your memories and
about your family member who has just passed away. You
can make another
copy for a gift for another family member to enjoy.
16: Put some Christmas music on and SING.
17: Visit Annie's Bless Your
Heart Page to learn how to take good
care of YOU!
18: Get out your address book and call an old friend on
the phone to wish
them a Merry Christmas.
19: Try not to over do it this year.
20: If you normally write a Christmas Letter to put in
your Christmas cards
why not choose not to this year. Instead you may want to
send one for
Valentines Day or later in the year.
21: Borrow a child and take them shopping for their
22: Don't forget to eat. Some people get headaches when
they don't eat.
Have you eaten anything today? Sometimes that can make
you feel just
a little off if you don't eat.
23: If you live where there is snow..........Make a
24: Consider adopting a pet from your local Humane
Society. Here is an
article to read: Animal magnetism:
Pets add touch of home for sick or bedridden people
I hope that these were
helpful ideas and that they were able to bring you cheer
and lift your spirits just a wee bit.
despair! Eventually you will have a Merry Christmas It
just might not be this year.
some other pages that
may be helpful for you: